It Looks Good on You

Year two of The Plan had started off so differently. My husband and I had navigated his time home so much better. Was it because we had had a break? Or was it because we knew another one was coming? Or was it because had grown? The truth was it was all three and so much more. Neither one of us was desperate for his time to depart this time. We were both looking forward to different aspects of our time, but we had genuinely enjoyed each other and with our own growth, we had learned to read each other's needs again.

There were some aspects of this time that we were still not seeing eye to eye on but it was not from a selfish way. At least not entirely. He wanted me to feel like the condo was ours this time, not his. I could see this as a good thought but was never able to completely feel this way through no fault of his.

I am a homebody by nature and prefer to be in my own domain versus anywhere else. But this being said, maybe it was the fact that it is Myrtle Beach. A place he had always stated he wanted to retire and I had always stated that I did not care for. I enjoyed camping thoroughly due to the peacefulness of it and looked forward to our time away. But the camper is mine so maybe that does make a difference. No matter what, the time coming up was providing a peace, not a relief this time and that felt so good. I was looking forward to reading, writing, quiet evenings, watching the movies and tv shows that I love so much. He was looking forward to getting back to his AA meetings that he really enjoyed, his friends, golfing and the warmer weather. It is a win win for both of us.

At some point we need to figure out how to get what we want in our solitude, together. Until that time comes though we are both very content with our temporary solutions. People have mentioned that they see a difference in us. We are carrying ourselves a little more confidently, a little more peacefully. They say it looks good on us.